Sorry I didnt answer the private message but I always forget they are there and never check for them. Anyway, I couldnt figure out how to get mine on either so I sent it to Stefan and he put it on. I'm sure he'd be glad to add yours
You can change your settings on the private message option. go to the user cp, click edit options, and enable the notify me for private messages. You probably new this, but maybe not...so there it is. Mark